Putting Myself Out Of Business

I’ve always tried to not work with people longer than necessary.
I often find myself saying that I want to make myself redundant.
Cue nervous laughter.
However, in the end, all my business relationships end for the same reason: I’ve taught them what they need along the way.

I learn if they learn. So, we learn together.
I’ve since discovered that this is called Social Learning. Some of you may know it as a Community of Practice, others as a Critical Social Learning System; some may just know that working things out together brings the best results for everyone.
Each of us grow more.
Everyone of us is richer.

It’s my job to make my clients a success, not to be seen as successful.
The credit goes to them, the money comes to me.
Although, I don’t like to consider it a cost.
If people learn along the way then I am adding value, bucketloads of it.
Things that stick, get passed on and up; things that become visible pieces of the organisation.

It can be a three-word phrase (or two) as happened with a technical company I worked with.

It can be a reframing of a problem so that it becomes multiple opportunities, as I did for a management accountant membership organisation.

It can be helping them see how to find the best path forward, and to move as one in the right direction. That’s what I did for one of the world’s best built environment organisations.

It can be developing a simple structure for meeting new people, or bringing in outsiders to help you understand your next steps. It can simply be helping people see their own value.
I’ve done all of those.
Many times.

What all of these examples have in common is they are shifts.
Real changes that you can measure.
They all give the organisations and individuals the momentum they need.
They are all about looking forward towards a destination (even if that changes as the journey progresses) rather than looking back on what worked before and repeating it.

They are about the formation of new ideas, new ways of working, new beliefs that are not limiting.

Most importantly, they put a smile on people’s faces.
Including mine.

Things I’ve Learned in 2019

I wasn’t really sure how to look over the year that’s almost over. It has been a mixed bag in terms of work and personal achievements. Then I considered that perhaps it’s better to avoid presenting life as a series of successes and just document it as it was experienced and how I felt about it.

Below, in no particular order, are some of the lessons I’ve learned as I’ve navigated the past 11 months and 20 days. It’s just luck there are 25 in the list, there’s no conceit.

  1. My work does, well, work. I’ve helped organisations do good things; to innovate and work in ways that they didn’t find comfortable but were ultimately rewarding, and at least one agency to win more work, and a clutch of awards.
  2. I like to make my clients famous rather than myself; famous is subjective, so I’ll clarify that I mean they are seen as successful even if it’s my work that has achieved that – as long as they’ve paid for it
  3. My mental health is not bettered by surrounding myself with people that are dealing with similar challenges to me
  4. I’ve felt lost quite a bit throughout the year with regards to my work, and to a lesser degree my overall purpose; I still have no definite answers so will keep reflecting on this as 2020 progresses
  5. I should have begun a period of study some years ago. I’m now at the very beginning of my MSc in Systems Thinking in Practice and very much enjoying both the theory and the praxis that I’m building out.
  6. I’ve done 24 workshops this past year. Most were successful, with one or two that on reflection could have been better for various reasons
  7. Recruiting people to attend workshops isn’t worth the effort; people say yes but rarely commit. It’s disheartening and so there will not be any more workshops unless they are delivered to an organisation or within a scope of work
  8. I miss working alongside someone who I feel is better than me and from whom I can learn
  9. I never want a full-time job again, but I’d really like something that’s ongoing over a longer period (one or two days a week for 3 months, for example) or a block of time dedicated to one project (six months to design a new service or product, for example).
  10. I am less interested in the production of a ‘thing’ than I am in the origination and initial development of a ‘thing’
  11. Shorter projects I like are ones that involve defining where things could go next. I am good at getting things kickstarted again, or helping find new paths to take.
  12. Mentoring is fun. I’ve had some great successes this year. I would like to do more, but to be paid for my time if it’s to sustain my interest and ability to deliver meaningful shifts.
  13. People say yes because they think they should; it’s more of a let down when they then fail to follow through on a promise. Say no if you can’t, or won’t. It’s better to say no than to let someone down later on. Or ghost them.
  14. It’s tougher to move away from what you’re known for than it would seem; some of this is limiting beliefs, some of it is how others perceive you (and introduce you to others) and some of it is a lack of perceived experience
  15. If you remove yourself from social media you effectively disappear from the world. This makes it much more difficult when you then need to be seen beyond your immediate circle of friends, or your close network.
  16. Could is better than should
  17. I’m lucky to have a good circle of friends and the support of my immediate family. Without them I couldn’t have coped with the lows or reached the highs.
  18. Travelling around Europe on trains for 22 days with your wife and daughter is fantastic, yet it’s not something any of us would want to repeat any time soon
  19. My physical health continues to improve, although a bout of pneumonia can really set me back
  20. I should read more in the day time. Non-fiction, specifically. The more I give over to my studying, the more I learn that using the ideas within books as a lens through which to view past work/experiences is the way to personal and professional growth. Books could also be switched out for conversations, or seminars, or conferences. Choosing wisely is the key to unlocking that potential
  21. Spend more time away from screens
  22. Broaden my musical tastes, including listening to things I might normally go out of my way to avoid. This could also apply to life experiences in general.
  23. Don’t read the news. It’s not designed to improve anyone’s mental health – although it could be.
  24. Only offer advice if it’s asked for. Only listen to advice if you’ve requested it.
  25. Write more. Write as if no one is reading (they probably aren’t!)

This is my list. It might not resonate because it’s mine. I’ve edited it down to the most important things I want to take away from this past year. I’m open to discussing any or all of the things on this list.

Walk This Way, Talk This Way

I’ve never been a huge fan of networking events. It’s often a shortcut for people (men, if I’m honest) to attempt to sell their company’s product or service to others. This means it quickly becomes a festival of boring questions about where you work and what you do, which is another way of seeing if there’s anything in it for the other person from a sales perspective.

For those people who find these ‘social’ occasions awkward, it’s even worse.

Like recruitment, for me, personal recommendation is the best way to network – I know this person and I think they should know you and vice versa. This works best when there is a shared purpose.

Now, I like to connect people. I like to think I’m fairly good at it. I have a great network of people I’ve met, worked with, chatted to Twitter, etc, over the years and when I think there’s a good reason to introduce people I do it. The emails I send set the tone, too (I’ve been told they are quite something to receive; read into that what you will).

I’ve long wondered if it was possible to do this at a slightly bigger scale – without the need to put on an event. And opportunity arose when someone I’m mentoring said they didn’t enjoy networking and wanted to get better at it.

Thus, my NetWalk adventure was born.

I kept it to four simple elements:

  1. A small, personally selected group of people that share one or more interests.
  2. A walking route chosen beforehand from a convenient meeting place that took us somewhere to hang out and chat/drink.
  3. A selection of questions to prompt conversation.
  4. A small number of tasks, handed out at random as the walk progressed.

And so it came to pass that 8 of us embarked on this experiment last week. Eight people who didn’t know one another, or had met maybe once before a long time ago. Seven women, one man. We walked for 40 minutes (it should have been shorter, but some groups missed a turn off because they were deep in conversation). We stayed together as a group for over an hour afterwards, sipping drinks and chatting at length.

The feedback suggests it was a success. This comment summed it up for me:

“I just realised I must have been having some great conversations because I didn’t take a single photo!”

Everyone who attended said I should repeat it. Those who were invited but couldn’t make it requested to come on the next one. Those who came on it wanted to be on the next one, too.

Alas, it can’t be repeated exactly as it was. The weather is against that happening. However, I will be thinking about how to bring a group of people who don’t know one another together for a walk, with questions and tasks provided by me. Of course there will be drinks at the end. Let me know if you’d be interested and I’ll add you to the list of possible attendees.

Apologies to Aerosmith for using their lyrics without permission in the title of this post. To be fair, I suspect most people think it’s a Run DMC song anyway.

Shift Strategies Launched

I’ve always been a fan of Oblique Strategies.
I’ve always liked to find ways to experiment with my thinking.

I thought about a way to create my own set of Oblique Strategies based on things I’d seen, heard, read and watched. I had this idea some time ago, but in a different format. It almost got called Thought Baffle. It wasn’t right.

So, with design input from Dan Bull at Observatory, and coding done by Matthew Knight of Leapers fame, a new idea called Shift Strategies was created.

Check out the site.
Click the heading to get a new strategy.
See the list of all them so far (there’s more to add, this is the first iteration).
Click the author’s name to see their talk if it’s online, or be taken to a website  related to the event their talk took place.

It’s that simple. Enjoy.
And if you like it, please use it often and share it widely.

Who Is In Charge?

In so much of my previous working life, I’ve been told what to do. The task has been set, usually with a written brief, and it’s been fairly prescriptive: Do this and end up here. Creativity became almost like a recipe to follow, which to me feels like the opposite of creativity.

Once I was free from the shackles of doing the same work over and over again, I got to think more about why this seems at odds with being an adult and the responsibility that being a grown up within a workplace brings (or should bring). Over time that consolidated with the idea that work is more about formations than patterns.

You see, when birds fly in skeins, the leader isn’t always the same. Each bird has a role within that formation, swapping them when their skills are best suited to the conditions. Similarly, with formations built over time, like those in geology, each stratum has a clearly defined role, but there are no formulae to follow in constructing those layers.

Formations, therefore, became a thing for me. They still are.

There’s always an I in team
‘We’re a team’ is the old adage used to demonstrate that we’re working together. Except someone else is usually pulling the strings, deciding who does what and when. Subordinates get told what to do. Perhaps in an email, or in a meeting. Someone else is deciding what they should do, and there is little sense of why they’re doing it. Sheila creates a spreadsheet of data; Bob creates a presentation about the data; Wendy writes a report no one reads. By and large, none of them know why they’re doing what they’re doing. It’s just ‘work’.

So, what if the person in charge was decided on in context of the task? What if it could be changed, swapping them over when their skills are best suited to the conditions? What if teams could be formations?

How would that work in reality?
At the shallow end of this thinking is process. If we create a process that allows people to be flexible, then surely this will work? I fell into this trap early on. Except process is end-to-end and doesn’t really change. It has a start, a middle and an end. It doesn’t matter if you’re creating marketing communications or you’re a brain surgeon, the stages of the process are fairly similar:

  1. Discover what’s wrong – people prefer this margarine over that one because of price; there’s a lesion in the brain.
  2. Plan on what you’re going to do to solve it – devise a campaign around health benefits that helps to convince price sensitive consumers that paying extra is worth it; operate.
  3. Execute that plan – run the campaign; complete the operation.
  4. Analyse and feedback – did sales go up (or not) and why? Amend the next campaign; has the lesion gone, is the patient healthy?

While I’ve massively simplified this (apologies to brain surgeons reading this, but also it’s clear that marketing communications isn’t brain surgery, or rocket science for that matter), we give these names and say we have a unique process. We start with Ignite!, then we Ideate!, then Create! and then Optimise!

Or perhaps we Build, Learn, Measure…

While I’m not suggesting that these frameworks are useless, none of them really helps teams work best. They give structure to what things get done, but they don’t offer guidance on how they get done.

Practice vs. Process
While conducting my own research this past year or so into how I worked, which I titled the How of Work, I realised that it’s not the process that makes one person, or company, better than the other. It’s their practice.

It’s not what they do but how they do it.

Practice, therefore, becomes really important. Not only to completing the task, but also to working within a team. If one person’s practice is better, the team should adopt it.

Except, the practice, is most modern workplaces, is also determined by someone else. The manager of the team, or department, or the process. Who Nilofer Merchant calls in her book, The New How, The Chief of Answers.

Less What, More How
Having spent a year purposefully talking to people and listening carefully to their answers to understand where they’re stuck with work, reading lots of books and articles about the future of work, staring out the window, analysing my own output and the work I’m doing with teams and organisations, experimenting with ideas, and so on, I’ve come to the conclusion that the what is less important than the how.

What you do is not your focus.
How you do what you do is.

Less What. More How.

While this is likely to be my new proposition at Formation London, it’s not the end of the story. Rather, it’s the beginning. There’s a lot of related things that I’m working on that spring forth from this thought, all of which will see the light of day soon.

Some are already out there, like the Manual of Me, which has since become an online tool thanks to Matthew Knight and the Leapers community. However, there are workshops, work programmes for teams and organisations, and models to use and build upon, and a multitude of other ideas and thoughts to come soon.

All of them are designed to help put the right person in control at the right time. As I have said previously in this post, it’s about swapping [people into the leadership role] when their skills are best suited to the conditions. To bring context to teams’ work, to align practice with outcomes and to relegate process to its rightful place, the background.

So, who’s in charge? How is.

Image used is Different Directions by Matthew Benton, used under Creative Commons Licence.

 

 

Puzzling Ways Of Working

Occasionally, I get asked to ponder some challenging questions as part of my work. There’s a lot of research to read, presentations to view, people to interview and to listen to, and a whole heap of learning to be done around often complex ideas.

Thinking is a huge part of what I do. When it’s done well, the doing is easier, and the end result is better by far.

Once, when I was stuck on a thinking challenge, I’d step out and go for a walk. Walking is proven to have benefits for creative thinking and problem solving. It made sense to get out, to breathe fresh air and to wander in order to focus.

The problem with all that is weather. Specifically, cold and wet weather. I have to avoid this if I want to stay well. I needed a new way of walking.

Problem, sorted
While wandering around Brighton, with my family, we popped into a shop full of games, models and associated playful things. Tucked into a corner was a whole host of Moomin-related things. One of them was a colour-your-own-jigsaw of a Moomin comic strip.

We bought one and took it home.

Finding the corners and doing the edges was easy. After that, however, because the puzzle was black and white and made up of hand-drawn lines, it quickly became very, very difficult. Too difficult to hold the attention of a 10-year old.

I’m not one to give up as easily and so I steeled myself to complete the puzzle.

However, that week I had a lot of thinking to do around a tough client challenge. Instead of walking, I sat down to ponder the jigsaw that was taking up space on the dining room table, the place that I generally work when I’m at home. I needed it gone so I could spread out papers and Artefact Cards. I needed the space to think.

And so I gave up an hour of my first day to the jigsaw. While I was sorting pieces, so answers to the client challenge were presenting themselves. In fact, my brain was flooded with thoughts. Useful ones, too.

It turns out that doing jigsaw puzzles is good for the process of thinking. It puts the mind into a meditative state, allowing it to focus and wander. The action of sorting helps the brain to sift through the challenge at hand and solve the problems that arise. The harder the puzzle, the more it helps.

And there’s a little positive kick of dopamine when you find a piece that fits.

That’s just the short-term benefits. The longer term benefit is better memory. Early research suggests those who regularly do puzzles are less susceptible to Alzheimer’s.

One puzzle, two minds
Positive mental health is something that workplaces are beginning to consider. Finally. Space and time, as well as recognising that work doesn’t have to mean being at a desk, tapping at a keyboard, are as important as sleep, good food and nutrition, praise and being paid.

I’ve started to wonder if jigsaw puzzles would be of benefit within certain workplaces. Would they help people to solve challenges for clients? If two people worked together on a puzzle, sorting pieces and solving it together, would the conversation that sparked between them be a sort of therapy. Could it be, more importantly?

The work I’ve been doing on the ‘How of Work’ at Formation London has seen myself and Dewi begin to research into how physical machines that require two people to work together can help them solve a problem in new ways.

Next up we’re putting together some ideas for a workshop that will bring these things together, along with specific provocations around the challenges our clients are having within their organisation and each individual’s practice. And within that framework will be a puzzle.

I’m interesting to see what will happen.

The image at the top of this post is the completed jigsaw. It took about a week to do. A little longer than solving the client challenge took.

Put Your Best Face Forward

While exploring the ‘How of Work’ and the idea of ‘Practice > Process’, I’ve been looking at simple ways to articulate what I’m thinking and talking about. Not that people don’t get it, but it always helps to show rather than tell.

One aspect of allowing people to focus on their practice is that they bring themselves to their work; they’re engaged and – to use an overused word – authentic within the workplace. There is no need to hide behind a façade when you’re given permission to work how you want to so a task is achieved.

All that’s required is the right amount of structure, and that’s what a brief describes. The brief is the process, and as such it’s important to ensuring the practice can flourish.

A brief, though, should be just that: brief.

It’s minimum viable structure and no more. Questions may be asked, they may not. Further information may be sought, it may not. As a quick experiment to see what happens when you move towards practice over process, I decided to set my own brief.

Coffee without an agenda
Late last year I begun to think about new business. After almost an entire year off, I needed to start to get projects going to pay bills and ensure I could survive and thrive. So, I put out a request on LinkedIn asking if anyone wanted to meet for coffee, to chat with no agenda in place.

Meeting people and talking about what interests you both, without the fear that one or other of you is just there to sell, is both liberating and fascinating. I’ve met some brilliant people, and also caught up with plenty of people I’d not seen for ages. Already there is work in the pipeline as a result of these meetings, and many connections that would never have happened are now happening. In fact, I recommend it – get out, meet new people, see new places, drink coffee, chat freely.

At the end of these meetings, I’d ask the person I was meeting if I could ask them a small favour. And then I set them the brief: draw me a face.

Facing the challenge
Sharpie and Artefact Card to hand (unless over Skype – yes, Skype coffee meetings are a thing) they set about the task. Sometimes they asked clarifying questions, but mostly people set about completing the task.

Over a few weeks, I’d captured a good number of faces from people. They were, for the most part, standard human faces. Some were basic and simple, others had more detail and complexity.

Yet, there was a huge amount of diversity, which not only reflected the variety of people I was meeting, it demonstrated that people generally wanted to express themselves in their work. I wasn’t judging the quality of the drawing, but instead interested in how people set about it. Some people drew the outline of face and filled in the necessary detail; others let the features of a face define its structure.

And then something amazing happened. Someone drew an animal face. They’d added something new to the brief, which to me showed that creativity can be sparked when there is just enough constraint to allow personality and authenticity to shine through.

Finally, what I’d hoped to demonstrate happened: an example of innovation. I was presented with this card:

It’s a cliff face.

I’d been expecting a watch face, I’ll admit, but even I’d not considered a cliff face.

Novel, new and different. The kind of thinking that is missing from your average working process, because people believe they need to do things in a certain way all the time. Yet, if you’re after new strategies, ideas, thinking or tactics, the best thing to do is to relax the constraint of process.

Ask people to put their best face forward and you get diverse results. Just what you need in your business.

You can see the full set of faces that were drawn for me, and even add your own, on the Put Your Best Face Forward blog.

A Day Of Play

There are two things that make a workshop, well, work. One is having a diverse group of people involved. The other is playing.

And so it was with those thoughts in mind that Abi and Ben of The Conscious Project got in touch and suggested we run a day’s exploratory, playful workshop with a diverse group of people. We got Stephen from Nicely Facilitated involved, and then we did it.

I’d first met Abi and Ben a couple of years earlier, while walking in the South Downs on a ‘walkshop’ day. I really connected with the work they were doing, and was interested in their approach and how it differed to my own work at the time. We’d meet up periodically to chat, and to make sure it was a productive meeting one of us would bring a workshop activity to do.

Very quickly, it was obvious that we were learning new ideas from one another and adapting them to fit our own working methodologies. In a similar way that the activities I’m exposed to at one of Steve Chapman’s Labs do. And then you begin to ponder on what else might be learned from other people doing workshops in different ways and with a variety of sectors.

Play. Learn. Facilitate.
One of the hardest parts of a workshop, aside from building a programme of work that delivers against a desired outcome, is the facilitation. The ability to not provide the answers, but to ensure those participating come to the answers that work best for them. It’s a delicate balance.

By providing a playful set of tools and frameworks with which to work, participants begin to drop their working façade and show their humanity and humility, and begin to collaborate in interesting ways. Ideas are shared, debated, honed and often destroyed and rebuilt within one activity. And then everyone coalesces around a single idea, which they add layers to so that it gets better.

There is a sense of creating something together, which everyone has contributed something to. The ownership is collective.

It’s just that, when it comes to those tools and frameworks, you don’t know what you don’t know. You have to learn from others, just as Abi, Ben and myself had been doing over coffee.

On Friday, 24 November, we discovered a lot of new ideas, thanks to the 16 people who gave up their day to come along and play. A lot was packed into one day, too!

An exercise in playful learning
We began by introducing ourselves to others in the group. While some of us knew one another, many were new faces to which we needed to put names. To do this, we selected from a set of postcards, finding two that meant something to us. These were used as a prop to tell others something interesting about ourselves, framing what can sometimes be an awkward conversation into something personal yet simple. Once we’d told our stories, we swapped one postcard and moved on to another person.

Up next, I brought along an activity around group dynamics and ways of working. Deceptively simple, I asked the group to draw faces in six boxes. Each box had less time in which to complete the task, beginning with one minute and ending with two seconds. The output was a gallery of faces: The WallaceSpace Portrait Gallery.

We discovered the importance of sound and listening, as we explored a number of quick exercises within that space. Perhaps, unsurprisingly, the use of string and ‘slinkies’ will be remembered most, although the reflection afterwards brought about some incredible insights that I know I’ll be building into any new workshops I develop.

We also invited participants to bring their own playful experiments. Matt Ballantine took up the gauntlet and broke out the LEGO, giving us a simple task (build future transport options) to complete in any way we wished. The thing was, he also gave us competing instructions so we ended up concentrating on the wrong things – although we all discovered how much we seem to enjoy playing with LEGO.

Photo © Ben Emmens

Someone else brought a question they were hoping we might be able to answer as a group: how do we reduce NHS waiting times? We didn’t quite solve the problem but we generated a lot of useful questions to challenge shock statistics… And we chewed things over as more conversations began over a delicious lunch. Then sweets and (more) coffee were grabbed as we headed back downstairs for the afternoon sessions.

Anyone who thought there would be a drop in activity once we were all full of food was proved wrong as our first exercise got us up and active. We explored dynamism, intuitive movement and resistance over the course of the next hour – allowing us to think about the importance of physicality in groups, and, for me at least, how unfit I am. The image at the top of this blog post may give you some idea of how much fun was had, although in reflecting there were some serious points to be taken on the subjects of vulnerability and permission.

To follow, we sat down in a circle and used storytelling with items that meant something to us to thread together a winding narrative. Fun for sure, and certainly a test of memory. This kind of activity is definitely good for reflecting, and others chimed in with their thoughts on how it could be adapted for other circumstances – one of the key purposes of the day.

Finally, we broke into smaller groups to consider how games and ideas could help us facilitate learning around diversity. Brought as a request from Action Aid’s Deputy Humanitarian Director, this was a brief that had huge purpose. A tough one to crack, for sure, and one that some of us will be exploring in more detail over the next few weeks and beyond.

The problem with a day of play and learning is, it has to end. We finished up just after 5pm and some of us topped off the fantastic day with a glass of mulled wine. Possibly two for some!

I came away from the day with some new thinking, a whole bunch of new friends with which to collaborate on ideas, and a sense that being playful within a structured programme of work can really help breakthrough some serious challenges that groups of people, and organisations, face within their own working practices.

And the good news for those who couldn’t make it, we will running another, similar event in 2018.

The Manual Of Me

 

Following an interesting question about CVs on the Leapers Community, created by Matthew Knight in response to his own decision to move on from his current role at Carat, I got to thinking about resumés.

Do follow Matthew’s journey via Rethinking Work, on Medium, it’s very interesting and may give you the confidence to make that ‘leap’. 

More often than not, your CV and LinkedIn profile are looking backwards, not forwards. They give a snapshot of what you’ve achieved, the skills you have that were relevant for your past role. If the CV is about the journey, shouldn’t we have a tool that is more about where we’re heading?

This got me to thinking about my own recent decision to ‘retire’ from what I’d done before so that I could move into new areas, use my varied skills in new ways and continue learning. My own LinkedIn profile considers the old me, but not the new.

Time for me to create a Manual of Me.

How I add value

  1. Solving problems. The more complex the better.
  2. Working with teams of people to solve challenges. People from all walks of life. People from different backgrounds. People with varying degrees of knowledge of what might need to be done.
  3. Working alone. Deep thinking. Presenting a set of starting points that others can build upon.
  4. Workshops. Creating and facilitating them. Getting people together. Playing around with ideas. Taking someone’s thoughts and sculpting something from it, as a group.
  5. Using the outside world within activities. Moving gets the blood flowing, provides observations and inspirations. It stops ‘stuckness’. Fresh air is the lifeblood of great ideas.

Barriers to consider

  1. Lack of constraints. Freedom is great, but it leads to incorrect paths and a move away from certainty.
  2. Sitting around bemoaning the problems rather than getting up and doing something about them. More doing than talk is better.
  3. Offices and their conference rooms. Sitting at computers because that’s what makes people look busy.
  4. Those who say serious is the only way to be professional. Being playful unlocks
  5. Knowing all the answers before we set out. Where’s the fun in knowing? The fun is both in the discovery and in the journey towards that discovery (and all the paths that prove fruitless, for they bear fruit in ways that are truly immeasurable against the final outcomes).

Requirements

  1. Open-minded people. The questioners. Those who ask why. People willing to try something because it might just unlock something in collective thinking.
  2. Play. Having fun is possible while doing work. It allows for activities which, on the surface, appear unrelated to the task. Yet, they remove obstacles to thinking clearly and enable progress. And people smile, laugh and connect.
  3. A space in which to work. This can be an office, a park, being provided a different desk inside an organisation each day, an hour of people’s time. As long as there is coffee to start the day.
  4. The willingness to work hard. This doesn’t mean stay up all night, or skipping lunch. This means putting in effort and being present when necessary, always.
  5. Uncertainty. Those who want to learn how to use it as a powerful force. And be happy getting things wrong in order to do so.

Cost
I don’t like to think of it as a cost. I believe the value created far outweighs that – not only financially, but also through motivation of staff, progress on challenges and a shift in organisational mindset.

However, on your balance sheet it will be marked as a day of everyone’s time answering the brief. It can’t be ignored; however, it should be viewed against what you’re gaining. My aim is that value should always exceed cost.

Outcomes
These are dependent upon the brief. Previously, for those I’ve partner with, I’ve delivered the following:

  1. Frameworks and tools that your teams can use again and again
  2. A report with clear recommendations
  3. Ongoing support, coaching and training – of individual staff, departments, or organisations
  4. Clearly defined strategies, goals and narratives for moving forward.
  5. An outsider’s perspective: objective, unencumbered by internal process and politics, yet willing to get my hand dirty to make things happen.

And as I’ve found myself drawing more and more, I’ve prepared a visual version for those who prefer pictures to words.

Modulating Self

I’ve been having coaching sessions.
Principally, these have been to get me out of my comfort zone and into a freer, more experimental self.
I’ve found them invaluable in understanding what’s blocking me from doing things, and the traits within myself that I’m using to define me.

That I’m using.

That’s a key point. It’s about me.

I’ve realised I behave a certain way, that I’m conforming to how I think people believe I should act. I’ve not been my authentic self all the time, and certainly not when I need to be.

I’ve been keeping things hidden, or showing the wrong side of me. I’ve been trying to please people and not putting myself first.

This has had an effect of me trying to make people happy in areas that I have no control over. And in trying to exert control, I’ve made myself unhappy, completed work that’s out of scope and yet still been left feeling I’ve failed somehow.

Now, I can’t really change the core person I am. I’ll always be overly talkative when I’m nervous, prone to occasional swearing. I’ll always want to do more than is expected (because I enjoy what I do); however, taking on someone else’s anger, or fear, does me no good.

I explained to my coach that I felt like I need to consider interactions within my work as if I had a graphic equaliser. That way I could modulate my responses, my actions and, therefore, how I felt about outcomes or decisions that needed to be made.

Beyond that initial chat, I’d banked the idea and then completely failed to follow up. So, as a good coach, it came up again this week during an exercise and she asked me what had happened to that idea. And so I’ve revisited it, in depth.

I could draw a whole host of these equalisers, each one with different labels. In fact, I’m doing this as an exercise from now on. Where I feel it’s necessary, I’m using this as a framework for reviewing meetings, workshop sessions, mentoring, etc.

The one at the top is how I think I act with people. I think a lot, constantly. About what they’re saying, how I might react. Sometimes I think my brain feels two steps ahead and yet I know that the assumption bar is creeping up. I don’t feel I listen enough – as the saying bar is up high. And yet, I like to think there is clarity within the conversation – that what I’m saying in reply, or framed within questions, is insightful and relevant; it’s clear and can be understood.

I’d prefer to have an equaliser that is more like the one below. And so I am working on making that the standard for my interactions at work.

I know I’m going to be guilty of viewing all these through my own biased lens. That can’t be helped or changed. Yet, as a self-reflection tool, I’m finding it really useful. To really consider what those labels should be. To decide if I need to modulate how I’m thinking, acting, speaking, behaving. Or just be okay with how I approached things.